My husband who was my soulmate and gardening partner, passed away recently and I was looking for ideas about what to do with his ashes when I came upon this lovely blog.
For me its about not being able to let go. Right now I want to keep him as close as possible and, as I don't know if I'll ever be able to let him go, I like the idea of incorporating him into the soil beneath a lovely shrub or bush but in a pot that I can take with me if I decide to move house. I was thinking about a little magnolia stellate as they flower the earliest. I am however, concerned about having so much ash so I think putting them into a jar rather that mixing them into the soil is a great idea. Thank you 'Shrinking Violet' you're a star! The rest i'm going to put into a lovely Japanese box that I can bring outside whilst I'm gardening. He would appreciate the chance to supervise for a change!
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I will be moving this summer from my home after being here for 37 years. About 28 years ago I had my beloved Old English Sheepdog cremated. I received his ashes back in a small metal paint can. I buried the paint can under an old crab apple tree he loved laying under. Is there anyway I could dig up and retrieve this can or has it disintegrated after all these years? I am moving to Florida and would like to take his ashes with me. I cannot bear to leave him here.
Joanna56. Have you made any enquiries whether it is permissible to take your dog's ashes to the U.S.A?
How should my ashes be added to my friend's garden? What plant do well with ashes?
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We mixed my Dads ashes with soil and planted three fruit trees last year. The Apple now has five huge apples on it. It doesn't seem to be a problem, although I made sure there was a good mixing up.
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My sister and I put our parents ashes in a now very over grown small quarry. . The snow drops grew really well for several seasons. It must have been the bone meal. At least it is unlikely to be built on. It is a lovely place to walk through to remember them.
My dads "pork pie" Inspector Frost style hat spent many seasons there as a memory. We always teased him about his hat. There is very little left of it now as various creatures pulled out the lining to nest in. Better than a tidy grave.
Please don't cremate me. I'd rather feed the worms than heat the sky. And don't embalm me, I don't want to poison them.
Then there is the land fill problem and the noxious products of body decompostion soaking into the soil.
All of which happens up on Ilkley moor. In reality It might be a bit chilly for ducks up on Ilkley moor. Particularly Baht 'at.