Not hawthorn. They grow huge very quickly. Lots of lovely sorbus to choose from which will be good for wildlife and attractive and manageable.
We planted a hawthorn hedge 12 years ago. It still puts on 6' a year but we cut it back once a year and keep it to about 6' tall. It's thickening nicely and has had birds nesting for the first time this year. Up until now it's served more as a sparrow conference centre and shelter from occasional sparrowhawks.
I'd echo Sorbus ( the rowans as opposed to the whitebeams) and Amelanchier. The latter can be treated as a shrub or a small tree. Both are great for berries and autumn colour in particular