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granmagranma Posts: 1,929

 We are dreading telling our grandchildren who are coming today after school that we have lost our beautifull saluki  we knew our lucky wouldn't last much longer as his legs had started to go and he was getting worse , he couldn't toilet properly he had been on mettacam for the last few years. Last night he was  howling  and couldn't get up. The vet gave him antibiotic s injection  He didn't really come round. Though he was awake and had stopped howling .lucky was thirteen .




  • Victoria SpongeVictoria Sponge Posts: 3,502

    I'm so sorry for your loss granma but am glad he must have had a lovely life and clearly you took great care of him in his later years 

    Wearside, England.
  • Beaus MumBeaus Mum Posts: 3,550

    Oh gran I'm so sorry, thinking of you and sending you much love xxx


  • DovefromaboveDovefromabove Posts: 86,102

    I'm so sorry that you've lost your lovely companion.  Of course your grandchildren will be sad, and you can comfort each other with the knowledge that he was so well loved and had the best possible life. 

    One of the wonderful things that having a pet teaches us is how to 'let go' - I've had many pets in my lifetime - on the farm we had a pet cemetary where hamsters, rabbits, cats and dogs were buried - all very loved and desperately missed - I still remember the first dog we had, a golden retriever who was my dearest companion and with whom I shared all my waking hours - he would even walk with me to the village school and then turn around and walk back to the farm.  He was ill and was euthanased when I was nine years old to spare him any more pain and confusion.

    My children also had many pets, and as happens, cats got run over, dearly loved dogs died - and we all grieved and hugged together and helped each other to accept that there are some things that we cannot change, and we just have to cope and move on. 

    As you may know, my dear Pa died a month ago.  Although I'm now very very adult indeed, I'd never lost a parent.  Just lately I've recalled my parents' good sense in never hiding the difficult parts of life from us as children, but reassured us that however sad we were, we would get over it and the sun would come up tomorrow.

    I do hope that you, your children and grandchildren can all console each other in your loss, and find comfort in the knowledge that you all did your best for Lucky, and that the fun you had with him will remain with you as the most wonderful memories.


    Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.

  • LesleyKLesleyK Posts: 4,029

    Sending hugs to you and your grandchildren gran.  

  • Loads of love anld hugs Gran don't worry your grandchildren will be upset but Their hugs will be fresh and honest and hopefully lift your spirits. Then they will be looking for the biscuit tin image  bless them.x x

  • fidgetbonesfidgetbones Posts: 17,262

    I was at secondary school when the dog we had had since I was a baby died.

    She had her usual barking session at the dustbinmen, then lay down by the front door and just died. She had a good and long life. That is what you have to remember.

    I found out about it when i was walking home from school.I had to get two buses, so I didn't get home from school until nearly 5pm. One of the kids on the street shouted, "Your dog is dead" I ran into the house to find the dog was not there. It changes the way a house feels.

    I was upset and at my grandmas shop on the Saturday, when I customer asked why I was upset.My grandma said," She has lost her dog"

    The customer said, "Dont' worry, she will turn up soon." 

    " No she wont, she's dead" I shouted.That made it worse. image

    We had a new puppy three months later. The house didn't feel the same without a dog greeting you as you came threw the door. My nans house always had multiple animals. All the waifs and strays. When one died, there was always others. Somehow that didn't hurt as much when one died.

    Hugs for you and your grandchildren.

  • WonkyWombleWonkyWomble Posts: 4,468

    My deepest sympathies Granma, a beloved pet is the most loyal friend and no less a loss. Sending you big hugs, strength and sunshine (hopefully) x

  • Lily PillyLily Pilly Posts: 3,845

    I have wept over more dogs than human beings I think!

    the kids will be upset but get them to remember happy times, get photos and make a collage perhaps? 

    How about planting something (they can choose ) as a memorial?

    good luck

    Weeds are flowers, too, once you get to know them.”
    A A Milne
  • granmagranma Posts: 1,929

    It's very hard not to love animals, it's doubly hard when you do.loving can hurt so much.

    Tess and now lucky .we loved them so much ,the unbearable pain  .it's so hard  .I do feel I let him down but you can't fight the natural process and I know there was nothing I could do.  I keep telling myself he isn't in pain and I know it would be selfish to still want him here. But I do wish we had had him longer 

    It's just that I'm finding it hard to accept he isn't here.  

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