The established Garden.

PalaisglidePalaisglide Posts: 3,180

The established garden is the reflection of the owners personality, how do you tell your children that.

Sitting in the conservatory eating sandwiches Monday yes it was sunny, my Daughter told me the garden wanted a make over? “err why” you cannot see any of the fences for shrubbery and the paths are getting narrower. “Err yes” but tell me who wants to see fences? Our fences are nice and new and now they have added even more decking. I looked after her garden for years and no, you could not see the fences. Then came Dave, his idea of cutting back is to a foot below ground and anything over twelve inches high gets beheaded, I am sure in another life they called him Henry. All new fences with concrete posts raw and bare, not to my liking although Daughter is minimalistic in everything.

Short but definite answer was I like it, Mum and I made it, it stays as it is, any one getting a hedge cutter out will find it turned on them and they will be reduced to dust. In other words it reflects my taste not theirs and so it is with each and everyone of us though how do you tell them, those followers of fashion. Their Garden like the Kitchen and Bathroom have had more make overs than the so called celebrities, who needs it.




  • philippa smith2philippa smith2 Posts: 6,183

    Frank...........couldn't agree more........these endless makeovers are a real bore and lack any sign of individuality.

    Paths getting narrower is good too........stops you putting on excess weightimage

  • ClaringtonClarington Posts: 4,892

    I knew someone whose lounge was almost always in a state of decorating! It was just insane not to mention a complete waste of money. I know what I like, and once the house is decorated I have NO intentions on doing it again for a long time! If I want a change I buy new cushions and move the picture frames around.

    But just yesterday a friend (in America) was telling me her neighbour STRIPS the garden three times a year completely uprooting not just ALL the plants but the wood bark chippings so that it is "fresh" for the spring / summer / autumn season.

    All the old chippings and plants are chucked straight into the bin - not even saved for next season. I only wish I had the money to do something like that so that I could spend it on established apple trees!

  • LynLyn Posts: 8,404

    And anything that encroaches onto the grass and kills it is a bonus.


    Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor. 
  • PalaisglidePalaisglide Posts: 3,180

    Sorry Lyn, Being fully detached and getting very long in the tooth my two lawns are a godsend in work saving. The daughter likes those then a Herb Garden and what she calls the rain forest, the grand children love that and the Gnome searches I set up for them, well you have to hide them somewhere!!

    Phillipa, my problem is not weight though I love things being hidden then coming into view as you progress along the paths, you want surprises. I got one last week when I found the Deutzia in full wedding gown bloom, one minute nothing next minute a blaze of white. My last Peony well and truly staked is coming into bloom, the oldest and best, a mass of red. That to me is a garden the hidden bits, turning a corner and being pleasantly surprised, standing in the conservatory and seeing it all in one eye full is not for me, note tell Daughter when she returns from Cyprus.


  • philippa smith2philippa smith2 Posts: 6,183

    Frank........yes, the surprises are always a bonus..........imho  gardens should be explored rather than everything visible immediately. Tho having said that, a nice open vista can be attractive too............but you need the acreage for that I thinkimage

    Sorry......wasn't meaning you were podgy.....altho I still think it a good wheeze for those of us who indulge in a bit too much of the good stuffimage

  • PalaisglidePalaisglide Posts: 3,180

    Philippa, Capability Brown did Vista and I am not a lover having seen many of his creations, much prefer the winding paths and open spaces appearing from behind wooded areas. It probably comes from being a soldier, we never liked wide open spaces, bit of a bind when they sent me to the Desert.

    Podgy would have been true five years ago but careful diet got me down three waist band sizes, chocolate now makes me ill so I indulge in a little Scottish fire water with some gentler water now , purely medicinal of course.


  • FairygirlFairygirl Posts: 19,752

    A change is a good thing if you feel you no longer like what you've created, but I would never just chuck plants out. I have loads of fences here and they're horrible and are being covered. I don't know why anyone would want to look at them in preference to plants. What I find funny is when people see lots of planting they automatically think it means lots of maintenance. The opposite is often true. Lots of greenery - in the form of shrubs in particular - saves  lots of weeding, and is beneficial to everyone, especially wildlife  image

    I think we're always tweaking our gardens and if something doesn't perform well then it can be moved or given away. Design in gardens reflects social change - it's been that way for thousands of years - but no one should dictate to someone else regarding what they like to plant in their own plot. Advise perhaps, but nothing more..image

    to walk through a forest is to touch the past

  • philippa smith2philippa smith2 Posts: 6,183

    Frank..........yep........there's always a difference between admiring someone else's vision and wanting the same thing closer to home.

    Not all the "big" landscapers appeal but on the whole, I'd prefer them to the likes of that chap who used to be  big on "makeovers"..........Dermot? Gavin ?....something like that..........the one who was big on "features"........often used to advocate the use of mirrors and glass panels........deadly in the garden..........I think he used to pop in the odd plant occasionally, presumably when reminded by others he was supposed to be doing a gardenimage

    Here's hoping it is a nice evening where you are so you can sip your "medicine" and contemplate what sounds to be  a lovely gardenimage

  • I had a church member that was 93 years of age and was living on her own. Her niece wanted her to move into a nursing home and on every possible visit tried to persuade her. My church member listened politely and then said 'Darling, I'll give it some thought and moved on to another subject.' She might not have been as young as she once was but she was as sharp as a pin. She had absolutely no intention of moving and died at home as she wished. So, the solution is to politely listen and never agree to anything they are suggesting. 

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