Smokin - im sorry for your loss.
im not sure people were knocking your advice, just the way it was given at times. We are all different and even though we may ask for advice some may not feel able to carry it out. Sometimes life gets in the way, not all on here may have the time and energy to spend on their gardens, whatever their passion. It would be a shame if you feel unable to continue on the forum, your advice is of course valuable, but wish you well if we don't hear from you again. Remember, no one disputes your knowledge, but it may be worth while stepping back a little to look and appreciate others feelings and abilities. Best wishes.