If everyone read up and knew what they were doing before they did anything there's be no use having this Forum, which is about seekng and giving advice - not just posting opinions on the world in general.
Thought I recognised SD's style - recent behaviour has confirmed my suspicions
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Thanks to 'some' people offering helpful advice. I'm actually only 20, and im asking for advice because I perhaps don't have the life experience that others have behind them. The tree doesn't belong to me, it belongs to my parents, but I'm taking the initative to ask other gardeners who may have been in a similar situation, as my parents don't really know what to do with it either (at least they're doing something with it, and wanting to crop it rather than leave the fruit to rot on the ground, which I see so often!). Yes, we can all learn for hindsight, but life isn't a dress rehearsal, you make mistakes and learn from them. I don't want some sad person giving me a lecture about how to garden and how not to, you can garden how you like, after all, the tree is ours, not yours. Isn't this what this forum is all about? Giving and taking advice? After all everyone started somewhere, you can't learn everything the day you popped out into this world. Perhaps you should be a bit more respectful of that. (Pointing the finger towards SD - comparing this to your rescue dogs is a bit extreme, it's a TREE.)
In terms of the tree itself, I'll get my dad to saw it off and go and buy some sealant, if that's what you recommend. I'm sad that after such a good year we'll lose so much crop (because my dad wont be able to make as much chutney!), but I think we'd rather that than lose the tree to disease over the winter. In the future, I'm sure that we'll prop the tree up and thin it out.
Thanks again for all those who gave helpful advice. I won't let grumpy people deter me from gardening, after all, I'm the next generation, or deter me from this forum in fact, because there seems to be helpful people on here willing to share experiences and advice.
If I'd had that kind of reception on joining - I would never have come back and I would have missed all the lovely, kind, helpful people on here - many of whom are like a little family. I hope you continue to ask questions - and continue to enjoy gardening. It's what most of us here do with a few breaks for chat and cake!
I've always said to my children- it's the intelligent people who ask questions- after all, it's how to find out the answers. Good luck with your tree.
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
I could offer no advice Hover, unlike the other pleasant posters and am so glad you feel able to return. I have to say it's really good to hear that someone so young has an interest in gardening. I think we all agree that it is very theraputic, even when we are cursing that we wished we had never started certain jobs.
Hoverfly, I discovered the "ignore " button next to the avatars. Anyone unpleasant you can just obliterate.
I have 50 years experience of gardening. I still make mistakes. The person who never made a mistake never did anything. Sometimes mother nature just gets the better of us.
Most important, the opinions offered on here are just that. Opinions. Anyone is entitled to one, but some people think that theres is the only valid one. As I said. Obliterate.
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And it's going to be a bough breaking year, even with thinning.props at the ready.
If everyone read up and knew what they were doing before they did anything there's be no use having this Forum, which is about seekng and giving advice - not just posting opinions on the world in general.
Thought I recognised SD's style - recent behaviour has confirmed my suspicions
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
I haven't read SD's threads and contributions since the first few. That's working very well for me
In the sticks near Peterborough
wise words Nut
I agree
Thanks to 'some' people offering helpful advice. I'm actually only 20, and im asking for advice because I perhaps don't have the life experience that others have behind them. The tree doesn't belong to me, it belongs to my parents, but I'm taking the initative to ask other gardeners who may have been in a similar situation, as my parents don't really know what to do with it either (at least they're doing something with it, and wanting to crop it rather than leave the fruit to rot on the ground, which I see so often!). Yes, we can all learn for hindsight, but life isn't a dress rehearsal, you make mistakes and learn from them. I don't want some sad person giving me a lecture about how to garden and how not to, you can garden how you like, after all, the tree is ours, not yours. Isn't this what this forum is all about? Giving and taking advice? After all everyone started somewhere, you can't learn everything the day you popped out into this world. Perhaps you should be a bit more respectful of that. (Pointing the finger towards SD - comparing this to your rescue dogs is a bit extreme, it's a TREE.)
In terms of the tree itself, I'll get my dad to saw it off and go and buy some sealant, if that's what you recommend. I'm sad that after such a good year we'll lose so much crop (because my dad wont be able to make as much chutney!), but I think we'd rather that than lose the tree to disease over the winter. In the future, I'm sure that we'll prop the tree up and thin it out.
Thanks again for all those who gave helpful advice. I won't let grumpy people deter me from gardening, after all, I'm the next generation, or deter me from this forum in fact, because there seems to be helpful people on here willing to share experiences and advice.
Hover- good to see you back.
If I'd had that kind of reception on joining - I would never have come back and I would have missed all the lovely, kind, helpful people on here - many of whom are like a little family. I hope you continue to ask questions - and continue to enjoy gardening. It's what most of us here do with a few breaks for chat and cake!
I've always said to my children- it's the intelligent people who ask questions- after all, it's how to find out the answers. Good luck with your tree.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
I could offer no advice Hover, unlike the other pleasant posters and am so glad you feel able to return. I have to say it's really good to hear that someone so young has an interest in gardening. I think we all agree that it is very theraputic, even when we are cursing that we wished we had never started certain jobs.
Hope to hear more from you. Keep coming back.
Trust you FG to get in first.
Hoverfly, I discovered the "ignore " button next to the avatars. Anyone unpleasant you can just obliterate.
I have 50 years experience of gardening. I still make mistakes. The person who never made a mistake never did anything. Sometimes mother nature just gets the better of us.
Most important, the opinions offered on here are just that. Opinions. Anyone is entitled to one, but some people think that theres is the only valid one. As I said. Obliterate.
Note to self. Must try to ask some intelligent questions..