Transgender child
Albe
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A month ago our daughter, still 11 at the time, told us she wants to be a boy.
She wants we refer to her as a boy, and call her with her name name, male name, and use male pronouns. Which most of her peers outside our household apparently do already.
I understand this is not something we can change or make go away. So be it.
Of course one could say "you were born without Y chromosome so you'll never be male, no matter what the legal, the society, the medical, the name, the pronoun, etc." And tough this is true I fear it is also useless at best and most likely very harmful.
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She wants we refer to her as a boy, and call her with her name name, male name, and use male pronouns. Which most of her peers outside our household apparently do already.
I understand this is not something we can change or make go away. So be it.
Of course one could say "you were born without Y chromosome so you'll never be male, no matter what the legal, the society, the medical, the name, the pronoun, etc." And tough this is true I fear it is also useless at best and most likely very harmful.
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Or maybe someone on here with personal experience on being trans or the parent of a trans could DM you? Then you can ask questions and share concerns?
However, I would be inclined to go along with your child but not let the final decision be made until maturity. Adolescence can be a deciding factor. After that treatment, eg hormones can be started on the advice of à good doctor.
I spoke with our GP already.
As I wrote, we are scheduled for a first Dr visit together, the psychiatrist, tough no idea if this is the best kind of mental health care professional.
Thanks for pointing it out but I don't expect hurtful comments here. If they come, they come.
This girl knew from a very early age that that is what she wanted to be and her mother quickly adapted to referring to her as a she.
It must be so difficult for mums who had all the thrill of 'it's a boy!' or 'it's a girl!' at the time of birth and imaging how that child might grow up to see them developing into something different and so hard for the children feeling as if they are in the wrong body.
Love, understanding and support by the bucketful is what is required here - for you and your child.
When I had my son,I was friendly with another girl who had also just given birth. Neither of us left the hospital for a fortnight or so as we both had babies with defects.
The medics didnt know what sex her baby was the whole time I was there. It was heartbreaking. These things happen to a lot more people than you think.
Its your child so you will love it unconditionally,no matter what.
I hope you are able to get to grips with what ever the outcome.
Sincere good luck.