Albe Posts: 123
edited October 2021 in The potting shed
Our 11yr old insists she wants it. She feels left behind compared to her peers, these days youngsters' status is linked to what stuff they own. Mind you, it was identical when I was in school 35yr ago. Actually not sure how much different is for adults, why do most adults buy overpriced unnecessary flashy cars after all, but never mind...
We are against buying because 1) videogames are uneducational, and 2) okish with buying some junk, but not when it's this expensive.
I'm amazed how many parents apparently buy this to their children.
Where do you stand?
as long as she does her homework and doesn’t sit up all night playing on it in secret, I would buy her some game consul, not sure which as we didn’t have anything like that when mine were young.
i could ask my daughter which is best, she has an 18 and a 12 year old and I’m sure gaming helped them. They’re very quick thinking boys both very intelligent. If they haven’t helped then they’ve definitely been very happy boys so far.
Our two grandsons got a joint football game thingy one Christmas, and can play with each other, and with their cousins on line. Their parents are very strict on time allowed on it, and things like homework and outdoor activities taking priority, but had no objection to the game in principle.
Don’t know what Switch is, but I’d certainly steer clear of any of those ones where you have to buy extra features on line.
Yes, I like the aspect of playing together and it possibly helps to bond, I kinda feel I'm losing bond with my child.
Of course school and some other activities must have priorities, but it's very hard to enforce the priorities, consider also parents normally work so cannot constantly monitor...
I would say that her parents and family should play some of the the games with her ... learn to understand the games and the capabilities with her ... don't forget that many/most of the stuff is now part of social media ... you play with other people 'online' so 'messaging' and all that stuff will be going on .... learn about it ... have reasonable rules and keep those lines of communication open with your daughter ... don't let her think that you're anti it or she won't be able to talk to you about any concerns that she has as she may think you'll confiscate it.
Talk to her school ... the teacher responsible for her pastoral care or whatever, or there may be advice available from the PTA or similar ... and help your daughter enjoy a tool that's going to be even bigger in her future than it has been in ours.
I agree the 'social' aspect can have value.
But I find completely wrong what you write about IT careers etc. This is stuff that is, for obvious commercial reason, made deliberately ultra simple to operate, of course one does not develop/improve any technical skills using it. 90% of my peers at the time played videogames, a good fraction of them has never developed any tech skills.
I thought I was pretty savvy having used computers for email etc for years at work, but I was amazed to be shown a couple of shortcuts by my then 6 or 7 year old grandson.
Sometimes things are simply fun.
Go back to the days when uneducated folk had to have books read to them ... that's the equivalent of not understanding how IT works ... once folk could read and write for themselves they were able to create for themselves.
Don't be upset if she doesn’t want to play her games with you, she has her mates, you are her dad, not her mate.
Depends on the child though.
They do need to learn about technology these days, that’s the way it’s going, and what can be more enjoyable for a child than in a game. Children have always learned through play, it’s just moved on a bit now.