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This may seem trivial but I have lived in my semi-detached dormer bungalow all my life, it was my mum and dad's house till dad died 5 years ago. 4 years ago the house next door changed hands and it has been one thing after another firstly they placed a trampoline right next to my garden fence, then they raised their garden by 2 feet so my 6 foot garden fence offers me now no privacy, they then wanted me to buy another fence as they complained they had no privacy. Then they altered the house removing walls, the fireplace and presumably putting down hard floors as I now hear every footstep, word spoken, everything really. Now this month it's back to my back garden fence dad paid £1400 for this 7 seven years ago,it states in the deeds it is our fence, it is slightly over into my garden by two inches as the previous owner could be awkward I have had garden pots on it for 2 years during the last month my neighbour has again begun yelling at me over the fence (literally and regarding the fence) she removed my pots and told me they have attached lights to my fence and I cannot have pots on the fence. I said it was my fence and I wanted pots on there and that she couldn't attach things to my fence without my permission, she then removed my pots again and said I was stupid and mental and that I could not have pots on my fence. So the pots are now on the floor where she threw them and I literally dare not go in the garden she has a very bad temper and I hate confrontation. Is she allowed to do this remove my pots as she has attached something to my fence, surely it's my fence? I would appreciate any advice to help me with this. Thank you


  • pansyfacepansyface PEAK DISTRICT DerbyshirePosts: 20,664
    edited September 2020
    it sounds as if you need a lawyer to write this person a strong letter which spells out the facts to her.

    Though I just see that you were having problems with this neighbour back in March 2018.  

    Apophthegm -  a big word for a small thought.
  • Thanks for replying, yes that's when it first started I did enquire at the citizens advice office in town but all he could really advise me to do was move before it affected my health but he did say things would get worse it wouldn't stop.  I really just want a quiet life.
  • FairygirlFairygirl west central ScotlandPosts: 47,279
    You have my sincere sympathy @smp24.
    If the fence is yours, they have no right to put anything on it, let alone tell you you can't use it, but I understand how horrible these kinds of confrontation can be. You may well need to write down every incident so that you have some evidence of regular aggressive behaviour, but I don't know how seriously police take that either.
    I'd certainly do as @pansyface suggests. You need some hefty back up with this. Do you live on your own? These sorts of bullies [because that's what they are] often pick on the easiest target. There was recent thread on the forum by a lady, concerning a similar scenario with a neighbour cutting boundary hedging/trees etc, and causing misery for her family. She hasn't posted recently, so I don't know how things are going for her. 
    It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....

  • Speak to a lawyer first. What's not commonly understood is the "it's my fence because it's on the left/right/back/front of my garden and the picture on the land registry docs says it's at position X" is all an urban myth. Land registry diagrams aren't detailed enough to determine ownership of a fence or position of a boundary by themselves, unless the positioning is made obvious due to other features. That's why all these disputes over 6 inches of land end up heading for court.

    Without a determination decision, there (quite incredibly but true) is no single definition of a property boundary in the UK.

    So unless this has been investigated previously and the decision documents really do explicitly state the position of the boundary and therefore the fence (a fence won't be used in the deeds because it's a moveable feature), don't rely on that.

    However you can always play this same game with your neighbor. Tell them it's your fence, you'll use it as you see fit, and if they disagree they can go and get a determination on the boundary.

    As you can probably tell, I have been on the other side of this argument before - "the deeds say the fencing is on your land so you need to pay to repair our fence". Er, no.

    Details here:

  • pansyfacepansyface PEAK DISTRICT DerbyshirePosts: 20,664
    OK, here’s an idea. A bit long-winded but bear with me.

    We don’t know where you live, how old you are, how financially independent you are, if you have ever made a formal complaint about your neighbours, if mum is still in the picture, if Millie is still around and so on, so there are a lot of ifs and buts in the idea. However..

    Would the possibility of your moving into a privately rented smaller property with maybe a small outside space be acceptable to you?  Your own house would seem to be right for a family rather than a single person. Are there many housing associations in your area, especially smaller ones? 

    Providing you have not made any formal complaints about your neighbours, nobody would be any the wiser. You could approach a housing association and say that the house is too big for you and you want to downsize but not sell the old family home with all its memories. The housing association may want to lease it from you for a longish period in order to house a family. They would be a trustworthy, problem-free, professional and responsible landlord, offering you a guaranteed rent and trouble-free management.  If the rent they could offer you could be matched by the rent you would need to pay to a private landlord yourself, you could walk away from the problem. 

    Of course, the details I mention in my second paragraph would need to fit in with all of this.

    Your nasty neighbour would then have a different, possibly more fighting fit, problem to deal with.

    Apophthegm -  a big word for a small thought.
  • K67K67 Leicestershire Posts: 2,507
    How come she can get hold of your pots are they sitting on top of the fence?
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