Boundary fence renewal

Hi, new here - please be gentle!
I would like to remove my 2m high leylandii hedge on my side of a 4ft ranch style fence between my neighbour’s and my garden. The hedge is messy and unruly and difficult to manage with parts that have died off and provides poor privacy screening now. I also wish to make a nice border with plants growing up against a sunny west facing new fence.
Last year I talked with my elderly neighbour about this and offered to pay in full for a lovely new boundary fence that would give us both better privacy - we have two (friendly) dogs that she doesn’t like. It would be a case of removing the hedge and erecting a really nice 6ft/2m double sided fence with cope for at least 9m of the original fence line. If we both liked it I would pay for the rest - another 15m or so to be done later.
She wasn’t keen on the idea despite the fact that I know she hates the hedge and is always cutting off branches that stick through into her garden (her right of course). Several years ago she hired a company to take about 3ft off the height of the hedge without asking my permission and while I was out at work! The company made a pig’s ear of it but that’s another story.
Today she was attempting to put up some fabric mesh over one of the baldier patches but it didn’t make any difference and she abandoned it.
I am going to bring up the idea of a new fence and offering to pay in full for it again. If she wanted to pay half for the fence that would be a bonus!
If she still isn’t keen, would I be wrong just to have the work done? I know it wouldn’t make for good relations but she has never consulted with me before having work in her garden done - taking down trees close to the boundary, putting up a tall shed along the boundary, reslabbing her patio right up to the boundary fence, attaching gutters on a new roof that enters our “airspace” but we have always minded our own business about this stuff. The posts are in our side of the boundary and the houses and the fence are about 45 years old now.
I would like to remove my 2m high leylandii hedge on my side of a 4ft ranch style fence between my neighbour’s and my garden. The hedge is messy and unruly and difficult to manage with parts that have died off and provides poor privacy screening now. I also wish to make a nice border with plants growing up against a sunny west facing new fence.
Last year I talked with my elderly neighbour about this and offered to pay in full for a lovely new boundary fence that would give us both better privacy - we have two (friendly) dogs that she doesn’t like. It would be a case of removing the hedge and erecting a really nice 6ft/2m double sided fence with cope for at least 9m of the original fence line. If we both liked it I would pay for the rest - another 15m or so to be done later.
She wasn’t keen on the idea despite the fact that I know she hates the hedge and is always cutting off branches that stick through into her garden (her right of course). Several years ago she hired a company to take about 3ft off the height of the hedge without asking my permission and while I was out at work! The company made a pig’s ear of it but that’s another story.
Today she was attempting to put up some fabric mesh over one of the baldier patches but it didn’t make any difference and she abandoned it.
I am going to bring up the idea of a new fence and offering to pay in full for it again. If she wanted to pay half for the fence that would be a bonus!
If she still isn’t keen, would I be wrong just to have the work done? I know it wouldn’t make for good relations but she has never consulted with me before having work in her garden done - taking down trees close to the boundary, putting up a tall shed along the boundary, reslabbing her patio right up to the boundary fence, attaching gutters on a new roof that enters our “airspace” but we have always minded our own business about this stuff. The posts are in our side of the boundary and the houses and the fence are about 45 years old now.
Any thoughts appreciated. 😊 If it helps I’m in Scotland.
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If it's your hedge, and your fence, you're entitled to do whatever you want with it, providing you are keeping it all within the same boundary lines. She can't complain.
Well - she can complain, but it makes no difference
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
I don’t really want to build inside the existing fence as then there would be nothing to stop her taking down the original fence having acquired a few extra inches! Petty I know...
I realise she maybe wants to pay half the cost (to assert her position as part owner) but can’t afford it. Perhaps she just likes the current messy arrangement - the word eyesore comes to mind!
I may have to just be brave and take some of the trees at the top near both our patio/ decked areas down and hope she gets fed up of the lack of privacy before I do!!
Thanks again.
Violet
She sounds like my mother, never happy with any thing
* re-reading this it seems the border is shared ownership?? If so it seems you are on a hiding to nothing with a person like that.
I'd go ahead and get rid of the conifer hedging anyway and when that's gone and there's space and light she may be more amenable to a new fence.
Is there any reason you can't just attach a new fence to the existing posts? If they're not tall enough, just replace the posts with taller ones.
"We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing." - George Bernard Shaw
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.