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  • LynLyn Posts: 21,342
    Don’t make the mistake of having biscuits or cake as compensation 😀
    Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor. 

  • FlinsterFlinster Posts: 883
    Lol! How did you know!! I’m prepared for a bit of weight gain but that’s better than smoking!

    Anyway, I am making efforts to eat much more healthily.. just made some veg/bean soup for lunch and haven’t snacked since breakfast, even though cake was wafted in my face at a meeting this morning! 😀

  • raisingirlraisingirl Posts: 6,437
    Just dropping by to see how you're doing. I've never been a smoker, but I'm rooting for you to succeed  :)

    OH has been suffering from migraines for about 10 years, getting steadily worse. Drs aren't very good at helping to figure out the triggers, although they have supplied the magic pills for when he hits one. We've worked out now what the main ones are. As with a lot of people who suffer from them, it's complicated. But the upshot is no alcohol, no chocolate, no shop/cafe bought cakes, biscuits or bread, no hard cheeses, no caffeine, no sausages or burgers, no takeaways. Basically we can't eat out, we can't drink at all (or put red wine in the spag bol), we can't have desserts unless one of us makes them and even then, not with 'normal' ingredients.
    Obviously I could still have all those things, but drinking alone is not for me (except I will drink a glass of wine with my dinner at Christmas) and I have my own issues that make eating in restaurants a problem. I do still drink 'proper' tea most days and eat brie now and then for my lunch. But broadly, I stick to the same rules as he does.

    It all sounds terribly drastic and I think if you'd told me ten years ago that this is what we would have to do to stop the headaches I'd have thought it impossible. But we've changed our lifestyle around the differences. I've had to learn a new mantra "Food is not your friend".

    Breaking old habits and making new ones takes a bit of time, but it's amazing how far you can change if you want to. I wish you luck  B)
    “Light thinks it travels faster than anything but it is wrong. No matter how fast light travels, it finds the darkness has always got there first” 
  • Busy-LizzieBusy-Lizzie Posts: 20,942

    Good luck Flinster. It really is worth it.

    I gave up in the 80s when I was 36, smoked since I was 17. Had to have a cigarette every time I had a drink or a pause. OH had smoked since he was 13, he smoked 60 a day.

    I stopped when I saw a programme on TV (in France) about smoking. There was a man my age with children who was dying of lung cancer, it scared me. I just stopped, said "I don't smoke" and I didn't, haven't since. I missed it like mad the first year, now I hate the smell. It was easier than dieting because you have to eat.

    But my poor OH couldn't give up, his lungs were a mess and he died from a heart attack when he was 53. I was 47. We had 4 children at school and university. It was a huge shock, took me years to recover, same for the children. But a few years ago I met a lovely, kind man and I'm not alone any more. Thank goodness he doesn't smoke.

    Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
  • FlinsterFlinster Posts: 883
    It’s really heartwarming that you can share stories like that and it really is helping. Thank you so much for taking the time.

    Im doing fine! Couple of strong cravings as the afternoon came along, but I’m busy pondering things/projects in the garden, so plenty to keep me occupied, which helps. I’m really positive! 😁
  • AnniDAnniD Posts: 11,162
    Well done @Flinster. I was talking about this with my dad (giving up smoking in general,  not you in particular :) ), and he said that my mum used to smoke but gave up when l was about 3 or 4 years old. She was more of a social smoker, but dad has never smoked.  He said he didn't nag her, but just wouldn't kiss her ! One day apparently she had a cigarette and went to me and l said " No, Mummy " and screwed up my nose. She hasn't smoked since. I didn't know that, but obviously my dislike of cigarettes started early !
     Bizzie Lizzie, yours is a sad story, l am glad you found happiness again  :)
  • hogweedhogweed Posts: 4,053
    How is it going @Flinster ? Are you still managing to stop? I know how difficult it is - I've tried many times. Am joining you today in the nicotine-free life.
    'Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement' - Helen Keller
  • FlinsterFlinster Posts: 883
    Yay well done Hogweed! How are you doing? Are you using patches or anything? I am still fag free, not had a single puff! I have strangely had strong cravings the last couple of days but the lozenges are taking that off. Think it will be 3 weeks on Tuesday. I’m definitely not out of the woods yet, I’m not sure how I would cope if I had smokers around me, but I will cross that bridge when I come to it! 😬
  • Janie BJanie B Posts: 865

    ... I've had to learn a new mantra "Food is not your friend".

    Our mantra when two of my three boys were diagnosed aged 2 and 5 as coeliac, was "food is fuel". Hard having to cope with watching everyone else eat things you couldn't, especially when you're only young... That was 20 years ago, and thank goodness eating and shopping for various diets is so much easier now...
  • FlinsterFlinster Posts: 883
    How’s it going @hogweed ? Have you managed the last few days?
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