Apologies....Not a GW Question

NewBoy2

"Should I bring a sleeping bag or a duvet when I stay at your place ? "

Yes I know this has no place of our site but i would appreciate the combined experience of my friends.

? Why do friends and family ask this please

Over the years I have wondered if they secretly think my beds have bugs or I dont wash the sheets or they dont want me to have "to bother washing the bedding " after they leave

I always thoroughly clean the room and bedding and wash it after they leave

Help please as my brother is coming tomorrow evening 

Lizzie27

It's usually to save the host the bother and expense of washing the bedding afterwards - my brother got so used to sleeping on the floor in his son's 1 bed flat, he always takes his sleeping bag everywhere. I do usually take our bath towels when we visit my son & family, with two children, their washing machine never stops and it makes me feel guilty to add to their loads.

Lyn

Years ago anyone would be very grateful for someone else to do something for them, and they would accept it graciously because no one had anything.  They could always return the favour in some way later.

These days, everyone has everything so we’ve all become independent and don’t like the idea of being beholden to someone. 

It doesn’t matter what it is, a sleeping bag or a plant, you can’t do a favour for people now without them wanting to repay in some way. 

Wonder what your brother would say if you said thanks for that, saves me doing the washing, I’ll strip the bed for you. 

NewBoy2

Perhaps its a Somerset thing as we used to live in Taunton and Bristol Lizzie
Thank you

Lyn

I was born and brought up in East London, everyone helped anyone out.  Would have been insulting to have refused help.  They were proud but they knew they could do a good turn later.
People bringing their own stuff is insulting, as if you can’t be doing with the bother of washing the bedding/towels. 
My OH’s father would not accept anything without paying for it, right down to a gift of half dozen eggs! 

B3

I understand why people do it but I think I would feel a bit insulted if a guest brought their own bedding with them. 

BenCotto

A few of us met up at a friend’s house a while back and stayed the night. The two solo guests both offered to bring sleeping bags, an offer gratefully accepted. The host was doing enough anyway cooking and providing entertainment for 8 people. They could do without the extra chore of making the beds, stripping them, washing and then ironing the sheets.

pansyface

I have stayed at people’s houses and taken my own bedding because I know that they are at an age where housework is a chore. Old age can mean that things that used to be a doddle are now hard work.

I have stayed with a bachelor and taken my own sleeping bag because he just wasn’t very houseproud. Not saying that his house was dirty, it was just easier for both of us if he didn’t have to make a big effort while I stayed at his place.

When I was young, every friend I stayed with almost expected me to take my own things because, probably, they didn’t have a spare set of bed linen.

I have had people who ask me if they should strip the bed, people who just leave the bed in a state of disorder and people who remake the bed to look as if it hadn’t been slept in. I even had one couple who went out to the shops and bought replacement toilet rolls and hand soap.

It takes all types to make a world. Don’t fret about a it. 

Lizzie27

It can't be a Somerset thing Newboy - I'm a Wiltshire Moonraker!

Nollie

Well I’ve never had anyone offer to bring their own duvet or sleeping bag, but guests do do weird things sometimes, like making the bed (as if you would reuse it for the next guest ) or strip the bed (good) but then fold the sheets (bad, you then have to unfold it and shake it out before putting it in washing machine). Now I just tell them to strip the bed and pile it loose into the provided laudry basket - much less work!

I’m sure they are just trying to be helpful, just say ‘thats very kind, but no need, really, the bed is freshly made up, AS I DO FOR ALL GUESTS - WHAT KIND OF FILTHY MINGE DO YOU THINK I AM?! AND BY THE WAY YOU TIGHT SOD, ARE YOU GOING TO EAT AND DRINK ME OUT OF HOUSE AND HOME FOR A WEEK AND NOT EVEN BRING A BOTTLE OF WINE? but so very thoughtful of you to think of the laundry bill. Big smile 😃 

JennyJ

People coming to stay in our spare room don't need to bring bedding so I would politely decline (it took years before my parents stopped asking if they should bring their own bedding and towels).  When people are going to be sleeping downstairs (usually my brother or my sister and hubby when our parents are in the spare room) they will generally bring airbeds and sleeping bags because they are campers and have such things, and we don't, and we have extra pillows and duvets if they want them, and loads of towels.  No-one gives or takes offence.

If I go to my parents' place, they don't have a bed in their spare room.  They have an airbed and I generally take my own duvet & pillow 'cos their spares are in the loft and they struggle to get up there these days.  When I stay at my sister's I always strip the bed and if she's off to work before I leave, I'll put the bedding in the washer on the timer program so it's done when she gets home.