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My garden is my sanctuary always has been and always will be. Naturally you cannot have perfect silence, we live on a busy road (never use to be). We have good neighbours, except some people that moved into a property a couple of houses along. There back garden backs onto our neighbours and ours. They have normally been pretty quite, until the hot weather appeared, screaming children, loud voices and music. And they get a little dog that they are training, by leaving him outside. Non stop yapping. My husband mentioned it to them and also asked them to kindly put the music down. To their defence they did turn the music down, but we still had the dog yapping, even when we said about it. 
The saving grace is that they have now moved out, only been renting the property for about six months. Peace at last. However, I went to the back of our garden and what utterly dismayed and disgusted me to see, was that they have chucked their cigarette butts over our fence, near the back of our shed. Irresponsible to say the least, especially in this heat and the risk of them not putting the butts out properly. The property is now up for sale, all we can do is watch this space. Times have changed I am aware of that, but tranquility now and again would be nice. 


  • FireFire Posts: 18,056
    What to do?

    Is there some way we can help?
  • Oh thank you Fire, but I do not think there is. They have moved on now, but we will speak to the Estate Agents who are selling the property and inform them of our frustrations and concerns. Of course we cannot say anything to that avail as of yet, otherwise they will not be able to sell the property I suppose.  It does not help me getting stressed with it all, when I have Crohns Disease. My garden is so precious and is my sanctuary, that maybe over the top, but that is how I feel about it. It is the best medicine that I would ever take, that's for sure. 
  • LynLyn Posts: 23,060
    Unfortunately there’s always someone ready to upset the balance, at least they’ve gone, you can pick up the buts and hopefully someone nice will buy it. It happens with rented properties.  You have a nice green lawn there.🙂
    Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor. 

  • FireFire Posts: 18,056
    I guess we have to take measures to take the edge off. Is there trellis you could put up to stop people chucking butts over? I have found that using a fan creates enough soft white noise to cover a lot of problems - screaming kids, engine noise and the like. I use earplugs a lot.

    There is the personal sense of grievance that we should not have to take these steps, but frustration takes its own toll. I have a train line about a mile from my house and when the wind is from the east, it feels like the freight trains are running through my bedroom every two minutes all through the night. Sometimes I find myself lying in bed willing the wind to change direction. It's entirely beyond my control and therefore pointless getting fed up with it. This summer the wind in my area has been mostly from the south and it's glorious to be able to sleep without the accompaniment of the Great Northern Railway.
  • Jules41Jules41 Posts: 178
    Don't worry, I'm sure we all have something that spoils our enjoyment of our gardens. I've just had to come inside because of the smell of a neighbour's barbecue and the noise of their shreaking children. It must be my age - everyone seems to be shouting these days rather than talking quietly! 😕
  • Jules41Jules41 Posts: 178
    Oh, and my next door neighbour hates nature. I caught her bashing a bird's best in MY tree with a metal washing pole! and she's tied plastic bags all along our fence to stop any bird landing on it.
    Oh well, I  just feel sorry for them all. I just enjoy my little garden - an oasis of wild flowers and wildlife. This year I've had my first hedgehog and more moths in the evenings than I've ever seen here before. ☺🐁🐾🐞🐝🐜🌱🌳🌹🌼🌻🌞
  • Reading this as I sit on my terrace smelling the all weekend bbq from next door and the constant yelling of the father at the kid. Got so bad a few weeks ago we had to report it to the housing committee (here in France they are pretty serious about noisemakers) . Keep your chin up you get the satisfaction of knowing that you are doing a great job with your garden. Looks lovely by the way.
    Marne la vallée, basically just outside Paris 🇫🇷, but definitely Scottish at heart.
  • FairygirlFairygirl Posts: 54,353
    Jules - that's really horrible. People are vile. I know what you mean about the shrieking too - our children were never allowed to make the kind of noise that some kids do - and our friends and neighbours were the same. 
    Jacqueline - at least they've gone, but you never know what you'll get either. I can understand how hard that is for you when you have health issues too. You work so hard to have your garden looking beautiful. You can always come on here and have a rant - that migth help a little.
    We now seem to have every r*ddy yapping dog that's been born living round here. It's becoming unbearable. The houses are all close together, but some people seem to have zero consideration.  One of them barked continuously for five hours a few weeks ago. I bet it would be a different story if my girls were playing loud music and having parties every weekend.
    It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....

    I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
  • Joyce21Joyce21 Posts: 15,489
    @Fairygirl, just think of a cottage, the hills and the bleating of sheep.
    SW Scotland
  • Mary370Mary370 Posts: 2,003
    Fingers crossed you get nice considerate new neighbours
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